Love is a very important word that rotates the world around. I am not talking about the mushy and warm feeling which will make your heart skip a beat.
Here, love has a much deeper sense than this feeling. It can be for any relationship in your life, including the most important relationship in your life that is your’s with yourself. To understand life deeply and all the relations surrounding us, the most common factor is “me.”
To validate anything else, it is important to validate your true self. The day you start loving and accepting yourself, then that mushy feeling for someone else will have an entirely different meaning in your life.
Although this journey of self-love and self-validation is not very easy, let us try to begin it. There are many parameters to cross in our mindset and heart to achieve this goal. Below are a few factors to help you in the journey of self-validation.
Guidebook To Help Your Journey Of Self-Validation
To begin with, please understand we are all different individuals born in different families with different values. So even before you start a self- evolvement journey, do not compare yourself with others and give yourself time to walk on this road before giving up.
We all are raised under different circumstances with different values, so as a child, we have no control over the praises or criticisms we face. Our parents and caregivers play an important role in building our self-worth in our life.
A test scored well, a match won by you, or a project well done are all booster points determined by the society in which you live. But as an adult, it is important to realize that non-achievement of these goals does not make you any less of a person.
It is very much possible that your friend gets promoted before you, but it does not make you any less talented. So, firstly stop comparing your worth to other people’s parameters.
Happiness Is Within You
Have you felt the sense of happiness after a long tiring day which a cup of tea brings? Yes, a very small thing but it can make your heart satisfied for a long time.
Similarly, after achieving well in an exam or buying a luxurious car, the degree of happiness would make you feel elevated. But, after some time, that happiness is replaced by the desire to buy an upper model than that car. There is no end to the milestones to be achieved.
No, we are not talking about soul searching like a monk and leaving all materialistic desires. We need to understand that the true meaning of happiness is within us. The level of appreciation we have of our life determines our level of happiness.
Converse With Yourself
You are your best judge and critic. To love yourself, talk like a friend to the inner you. Be more patient and forgiving to your mistakes like a true friend.
Many times, you fail to achieve your goals, but don’t loathe that for long. Instead, push yourself to work harder for next time as a friend would guide you in life. If you find talking difficult, start writing to yourself, a good trick to boost your self-worth.
Conclusion- No End To The Journey Of Self- Validation
To love yourself is a change of mindset with which we have been raised, so you have to keep checking yourself to remain on the right track and tune out to other people’s opinions, expectations, and obligations to achieve this goal.
Put on your headphones and listen to the music played by your heart and mind and not by the world. It will help you attain a higher and happier state of life.